HACKED!

Your profile is one of the very best I have read. Love comes softly. It comes when we let our guard down, step out of the box and are still. It doesn't come with "I" messages; it comes with gentleness. Tenderness. It allows an unfolding. It doesn't snap its fingers and say produce all of these things "right from the start."

"Now as for the love comes softly section. I can't tell whether this is another admonishment to me, that I should let down my guard and step out of the box and not be so concerned about the "I." Or whether this is you to you. Because really your first note was about you--the "I"--not me or us and I think smiling rather than writing and being fairly impersonal even when you did write constitutes keeping the guard up hugely.

I would love to think this is your way of acknowledging that maybe the problem was your being too guarded. But honestly, I cannot remember the last time someone said to me, "You know, what you said was right." Most people our age seem too defensive to admit they made a mistake. It's all about saving face. And ego.

I would love to think my point was well-taken. That would be encouraging. But I won't make any assumption until you say that's what you meant."

In no way are my notes to you an admonishment. They are an observation from my heart. There is no right, there is no wrong. There is this and that.

If the intention to advertise ourselves on this dating site  is about love, then this tete et tete about matters other than love don't matter. Yes, the "I" is irrelevant. The "we" matters. Point most well taken.

It is sure a culture of fear on so many levels. Imagine a culture of community, nurturing and caring. An economy of love.

Last evening my account here was hacked. So much time was spent in re-writing this current profile today.
Seriously though, you are more than high maintenance.  And angry.  And self-righteous. I am plain exhausted.

I wish you ~ good day.