Through The Looking Glass

Finding your safe spot.  Comfort.  Speaking your truth. Testing for readiness.

Recently in a bodywork session, the therapist and I spoke of those spaces.  She mostly listened while I was the student of bodywork, the teacher of chakras. 

"We are on the cusps," I told her.

Defining that space where we feel safe enough to say where we are.  Where we are willing to risk everything to speak.  It doesn't matter that THEY hear us; it DOES matter that we do.

A friend spoke about a relationship they were having.  They were terrified of where the relationship might go - more importantly that it would end.  In the conversation about their experience with that person, most of what they spoke of was the person's limitations.  In truth, they were also afraid of self-discovery - their own.  Sharing their inner worries with another.  Exposing themself. 

The interesting thing about all of this is that if we can't truly expose ourselves, when the time is right, how can we ever hope to have relationship...with anyone? Significant other or platonic friend.  It simply doesn't work that way.

Take a risk. Take it slow. Get to know the other person.  If they don't come back, they aren't meant to.  Just know in getting close to someone, don't give away the store. That comes in long term friendships. Over time.  They don't need to know about past relationships.  That is your business and stay in it.  Or, if you are ready, let it go.

You will know who your true friends are. That is what partnerships are about - intimate ones. They are there when you need them.

There are lots of relationships.  Some just ride the carousel. They look and they look. They hop off for a while to play, never fully expecting a serious grown-up relationship.  They aren't grown up.  They aren't ready to evolve. And that is more than okay.  It just might not be where you are.

Some are exploratory.  That is fine if you need to explore yourself. Further. 

So pay attention to what your bodymind speaks.  Listen.  Obsesrve your abdominal and throat chakras.  They never lie.  This moment is all you have. Honor youself.  After all -

“I can't go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.”
― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland