Loss Of A Child

I know something about the loss of a child.  The grief is deep.  These losses are in pregnancy. Whether it be short term or long.  Even after you already have another child. Or if it is the birth.  It is a loss of possibilities. Your heart is deeply hurt.  I remember wailing at the loss in my family recently.  I could not stop crying.  

This morning, a friend in the Smokies told me her daughter lost one of her in utero twins at 34 weeks.  That my friend held her grandbaby that did not survive, a beautiful girl, says so much about love and courage.  This friend and I have shared some amazing spiritual moments and lots of life.

I had the joy and honor of introducing her to her husband. They met online. He was to be working as a volunteer at an event where I was working as well.  She told him I would be there.  He looked for me and then introduced himself. In fact, I was on my cell phone speaking with her seconds before we met. She called me afterward asking for my blessing.  It was easy to give.  They've been married over five years.

But this entry isn't about my friend's relationship.  It is about our relationship to life, the joys and the losses.  The loss of a child. Losing a grandbaby is deep.  You can't talk about your loss because your child is grieving so.  You can talk about the future when the time is right. You cry longer than you can imagine.  Your cry for your child, you cry for your loss. 

After talking with my friend a few moments ago, another friend sent me this video on a giraffe about to birth. Animals and humans are not so far off.  We share love and we share grief. 

This spirit being is still with us.  Both of them.  Even though their human form can't be seen, their energy will always be a apart of us.  The connection will always be there. But for now, it may be stored.  Stored for that time it is no longer so painful to remember.