Sun Rise, Sun Set

It has been said we can only love others when we first love ourselves; that we can only experience real joy when we stop running from pain. In so doing, we allow ourselves to remain open to all of life's circumstances.  That does not mean we have to like them.  It does mean we don't run from the pain that goes with them. 
                                            

Just as the sun rises and sets every day, if we do not acknowledge the pain, it will be there until we do.  Pema Chodron suggests changing things on the inside.  Take a listen:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=buTrsK_ZkvA